Temperament Needs - Expressive and Responsive
In our most recent blog we briefly discussed needs within the three temperament areas: inclusion, control, and affection. Temperament needs are broken into two different aspects: those needs expressed, and those wanted. Let's delve a little further.
A person who expresses the need to go hangout in a group of friends would be acting upon his/her need in the area of inclusion. On another hand, there are people who don't show a large need to be in a group setting.
This area of need are those who show the ability to make decisions and/or need to take charge. People who express in this area are independent and can appear dominant. Others may show little ability to make decisions, and an inability to take charge.
In this need area, people who are often seen hugging, kissing, hand holding, etc. as an expression of affection, score higher in this area. While some express higher, there are others who don't need those things to feel loved.
Furthermore, we will discuss responsive needs. Responsive needs are those in which a person wants. In the following paragraphs, we will go into inclusion, control, and affection but show needs which are wanted.
The person in this area who wants a great deal of social interaction will respond well to large groups of friends, and is inclined to accept invitations to hangout. In opposition to that, there are others who don't desire being in social settings, and respond to large groups of people in a reclusive manner.
People who have a need to be controlled or have help in their decisions, respond largely to others' input regarding their lives. While at the same time, there are those who don't have the need to receive control or insight over their lives.
In this area of need, people who want signs of love and affection, such as hugging, are very receptive to receiving hugs. There are also those who want and desire less these signs of affection.
As we walk you through this temperament journey, you will learn the importance of knowing how God created you. Tim Lahaye puts it best- "Who am I, and what makes me do the things I do?" His word says He knit us together in the womb (Ps 139:13).