• Michael Wood and Ricky Britner

The Melancholy


We have arrived to the point of introducing individual temperaments. We've taken you, our readers, through a summary of Temperament Theory. Moving forward, it is our mission to give you a better understanding of each temperament. As we do, it is important to remind you of a couple things. First, your temperament is made up of three separate areas: inclusion, control, and affection. This said, each area will differ slightly, and we will explain as we go on. Secondly, all areas will interact with each other at different times through different situations. Melancholy Melancholy in the area of inclusion (inclusion - social interaction, surface relationships, and intellectual energies). Melancholies can be plagued with low self-esteem, low self-image, and low self-concept. They naturally have a poor perception of themselves, which causes melancholies to have a large fear of rejection. The melancholy is a natural loner, an introvert, and doesn't have high need for socializing. They can appear as outsiders, distant, withdrawn, and arrogant. This appearance is kept until they deem people safe and that they will be accepted by them. It takes melancholies longer to get to know people, but once they do, they are extremely loyal, trustworthy, and dependable friends. A melancholy in inclusion does not need a large group of friends, but they do need friends in their life. Intellectual energies. Melancholies are full of good ideas and full of knowledge. They're great thinkers, are book smart, and street wise. In that, the issue is they interpret people and situations, and have a natural tendency to see things in a negative light. With that, they can see things that aren't there, and believe things which aren't true. A young person who is melancholy in inclusion has a hard time reviewing his/her thoughts and seeing them for what they truly are. They will be drawn to living life as a job to be done, which they struggle due to the high standards they set on themselves and everyone else. When in their weakness, melancholies will easily fall into sex, drugs, alcohol, as well as other addictions. Melancholies are able to problem solve more easily than other temperaments, by having the ability to see success or failure. It is natural for them to see pictures and images in their minds. Melancholy in the area of control (control - decision-making ability, willingness to take on responsibilities, and the need for independence) A person who is melancholy in control is highly independent and has a strong will. One thing to note is that they struggle with the unknown within the control area. It is greatly important and needed to appear competently in control of unfamiliar situations. When approaching the unfamiliar, they tend to procrastinate until confidence is built. They can become great leaders when they decide, though they don't like to be responsible for anyone other than themselves. They are great thinkers. Knowing that, they tend to fear failure, fear success, fear of judgement, fear of the unknown, and being rebellious as well as being rigid. Melancholy in the area of affection (affection - love, affection, and deep personal relationships) Very faithful, melancholies are loyal friends and partners who can be extremely self-sacrificing. Unlike other temperaments, it takes more time and effort to get into their inner circle, but when you do...you've gained a true friend. They have deep feelings and tender hearts; however, they have high expectations of their close relationships and can be deeply hurt if it goes bad. It's not commonly natural for them to express feelings or share their emotions. Of all temperaments, the melancholy struggles greatly with the fear of rejection and not measuring up, so committing to a deep is done over time. The melancholy's relationship with God. They develop their relationship with God, the same way they do with people; merely, by doing tasks back and forth. God is discovered by searching for Him to help during their hard times. It takes some time for them to develop their relationship with God, but when they do, it will last forever and they will be willing to be used by Him in ministry.

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